WHY RELATIONSHIPS SHOULD BE NAMED...

It’s a Saturday. The girl on the move was wondering around a lot yesterday. The cloud?? Ya.. It was over her head all the time. Let’s see.. The cloud was not raining. It was not bright either. It kept on changing colour time by time. I think the cloud is confused now. Anyway… I slept for 15 hours since I was tired a lot yesterday in every way. Hmm.. Every way means 2 ways, actually. Mentally and physically. However, I wanted to write about something I was thinking about yesterday.. and yet again.. it’s about relationships.

There was a time I believed that every relationship should not have a certain ‘name’ for it. Well.. Some of you may not agree with me on this one. There can be relationships you can never name. They can exist…. But now I understand that those relationships lead only to complications. (There.. I said it straight away!) I was thinking about certain people and certain situations where these unnamed relationships existed. Come to think of it, now I see that they’ve only lead to more complications…. more problems and more hurt. We realize these things, but for some reason, we don’t want to get out of the situation. By the time you realize it, you’re too late. All the harm has been done. Hmmm… How true… So… here are a few ‘named’ relationships. Hope you’ll agree with me.

• The guy/ girl you love – Your boyfriend/ girlfriend or the love of your life.
• The guy/ girl you broke up with – Ex- girlfriend/ Ex- boyfriend.. The relationship should not be named as my girl or my guy.
• The guy/ girl you’re intending to get married to – Your fiancé/ fiancée
• If you’re a girl, the girl you love and trust more than your other girlfriends – Your best friend.
• If you’re a guy, the guy you love and trust more than your other guy friends – Your best friend.
• The woman/ man you’re married to – Your husband / wife
• The woman/ man who got divorced from you – Your Ex-wife/ Ex – husband.
• You’re married to someone and yet you have this endless passion for another man/ woman – You call them your other woman/ man. It’s bad and bitter.

Ok… now.. I want to focus on two things here. The guy/ girl you broke up with and the situation where a married person having passion for someone else. When you broke up with somebody, no matter what you tell yourself to comfort yourself, seeing him/ her eventually hurts you. When it was the other one who wanted to break away from you, still you can’t stop the love you have for him/ her. It’s all true. But once the mirror is broken, you can’t fix it the way it was before. People don’t realize this truth and well.. they tend to drown in the same pain, knowing it will never end and hmmm… for some reason, they tend to live in that hell… It’s a never ending circle. I’ve done that too… but later on when I realized things, I was also hurt too much.
Now… for the married person having passion for someone else thingy… People may have reasons to do that… But when you’re married to someone, you have commitments and responsibilities. People may justify it in many ways. But me.. hmmm… I think it’s something you should never do. Whatever the reasons are… at the end of the line… it’ll be labeled as ‘cheating’.

Two more things.. One.. What do you call a guy who claims to be in love with a girl.. and sees other women behind her back? Two… What do you call a girl who claims to be in love with a guy.. and sees other men behind his back? Well… I have some suggestions… Now.. I would like to hear your ideas about this whole why-relationships-should-be-named thingy… The girl on the move is waiting to hear the ideas in your heads too!