Baby Blues... is something a mommy experiences after a baby is born. Something like an emotional change.. The baby blues are suppose to come after the baby is born. But what I got is, most of our ladies have some kind of baby blues, even without having a baby in the tummy. This is what I've seen, and some of you might not agree with me on this. Have you noticed that most of the ladies nowadays prefer to get married in a late age? This is where it starts. After getting married, a couple usually has so many things to get settled with. The first thing is to settle down as a separate family. In our culture, we normally stay with our parents till we get married. Sometimes even after that, we prefer to stay with our parents. Getting used to the fact that you're married and getting used to the responsibilities as a married person takes a little while. Then there are financials to settle, buying vehicles, building houses, completing your higher educations, achieving your carrier objectives, etc. What usually happens is, the need of having a baby gets delayed. When a couple gets married, they usually seek a time period to 'enjoy life' or 'have some lone time together', before planning a baby. Then again, they might think that 'We need to settle down financially to think about a baby'. There are several reasons. One can't say they're unreasonable. But what eventually happens is, you got married late and you spend time solving your other problems, and when you complete all of it and turn back, you find that your biological click has ticked away. Then comes the problems. Sometimes you have to try for years and years or even run after dozens of doctors, wasting a lot of money.
Do women actually delay wanting babies only because of these reasons? What do you think? What I figured is, there are other reasons as well. They state the above reasons as reasons and hide away in their actual reasons. So what are the actual reasons? The main thing is the 'fear'. That's right. The second one I figured is responsibility, which is also a part of this fear. Raising a child is a huge responsibility, and some women do not like the responsibility. Believe it or not, but most women fear the pregnancy! The thought of bearing a baby in their tummy itself scares them. The pains and the things a woman has to go through during the pregnancy : they fear for it. The child birth itself, they fear for it. Then they fear the process of raising a child. It's a huge responsibility, true. But our parents DID raise us, remember? Then comes the 'stories'. This is a main thing. When you hear what happened to that lady with her baby, how she suffered through her pregnancy and stuff like the complications she got,eventually, a doubt gets planted in your mind. I heard the same kind of stories. But what I figured and what i think is, you're unique.. every pregnancy is not the same and thought those stuff happened to that lady, doesn't ever mean that they'll happen to you...!! Just don't listen to the stories, cz it'll only complicate your mind. Another thing is fear for sacrifice. Of coz, you have to drop eating junk food and switch to what you call 'healthy stuff' which includes more nutritions. Then you have to concentrate more on what are the good sources of fiber, iron, calcium, folic, etc.. rather than that tasty burger from the famous fast food outlet. Who wants to eat grains for breakfast? You'll have to! Then again you have to watch your blood glucose levels and pressure. Then you have to adjust your food according to that. It's a lot of sacrifice! You'll have to wear something comfy, rather than a stylish something. You'll have to skip foreign travel and long distance trips. That's just a few things.
Some ladies only wonder what to wear when they get pregnant.It's the LEAST important thing you'll have to care when you get pregnant, trust me. When a baby comes to your tummy, all you think about is the baby. You dream a LOT and your life ONLY evolves around the teeny thing growing inside your tummy. NOTHING else matters to you. The baby brings so much happiness to your life, and that's all that matters. I think being a mommy is the most wonderful feeling in this universe. I can't think of a better one. But IF you're clouded with baby blues and phobias, you'll never ever feel it..!! I'm not an expert on the subject, but I think I'm somewhere in the middle of the learning curve. So.. ladies, let your fears and worries go, cz we were made to have this wonderful experience in our life...!!
Do women actually delay wanting babies only because of these reasons? What do you think? What I figured is, there are other reasons as well. They state the above reasons as reasons and hide away in their actual reasons. So what are the actual reasons? The main thing is the 'fear'. That's right. The second one I figured is responsibility, which is also a part of this fear. Raising a child is a huge responsibility, and some women do not like the responsibility. Believe it or not, but most women fear the pregnancy! The thought of bearing a baby in their tummy itself scares them. The pains and the things a woman has to go through during the pregnancy : they fear for it. The child birth itself, they fear for it. Then they fear the process of raising a child. It's a huge responsibility, true. But our parents DID raise us, remember? Then comes the 'stories'. This is a main thing. When you hear what happened to that lady with her baby, how she suffered through her pregnancy and stuff like the complications she got,eventually, a doubt gets planted in your mind. I heard the same kind of stories. But what I figured and what i think is, you're unique.. every pregnancy is not the same and thought those stuff happened to that lady, doesn't ever mean that they'll happen to you...!! Just don't listen to the stories, cz it'll only complicate your mind. Another thing is fear for sacrifice. Of coz, you have to drop eating junk food and switch to what you call 'healthy stuff' which includes more nutritions. Then you have to concentrate more on what are the good sources of fiber, iron, calcium, folic, etc.. rather than that tasty burger from the famous fast food outlet. Who wants to eat grains for breakfast? You'll have to! Then again you have to watch your blood glucose levels and pressure. Then you have to adjust your food according to that. It's a lot of sacrifice! You'll have to wear something comfy, rather than a stylish something. You'll have to skip foreign travel and long distance trips. That's just a few things.
Some ladies only wonder what to wear when they get pregnant.It's the LEAST important thing you'll have to care when you get pregnant, trust me. When a baby comes to your tummy, all you think about is the baby. You dream a LOT and your life ONLY evolves around the teeny thing growing inside your tummy. NOTHING else matters to you. The baby brings so much happiness to your life, and that's all that matters. I think being a mommy is the most wonderful feeling in this universe. I can't think of a better one. But IF you're clouded with baby blues and phobias, you'll never ever feel it..!! I'm not an expert on the subject, but I think I'm somewhere in the middle of the learning curve. So.. ladies, let your fears and worries go, cz we were made to have this wonderful experience in our life...!!
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