THE 'NOT-REALIZING-TILL-THEY-LOSE-IT' FACTOR....

A complicated topic in the making..!! Brought up with lots of guy friend.. and spending my entire campus life with a gang of guys as my best friends, I ended up knowing a lot about this complicated topic.. GUYS..!! Guys and girls are from different planets, that’s true. Out of many things, I just want to share this one thing about guys with you all… which I have observed very often… and have enough experience to share with you all.

It’s about this ‘not realizing-till-they-lose-it’ factor. What the hell is that?? Wait… let me tell you. I’ll take two incidents as examples. There was this guy… a very good friend of mine… and there was this girl too.. both are very cool people. They studied in two different Universities, but they met in a function in one of their universities. After they became god friends, they talked everyday… text each other all the time. One studied law and one studied Engineering… two different fields. They had a lot in common.. and as the time passes, good friends became best friends. Since I knew both of them well.. I knew this guy liked her in a more-than-a-friend way. But this guy never revealed his feelings for her.. The reason I understood was… she was always there… being his best friend and she was always AVAILABLE for him

But he never realized that she has to go someday. So.. what happened was… this other guy, who also used to study in her University, popped out from nowhere and she and him… they also became good friends… The second guy was nice. I knew him as well… and it was from me who she asked about this second guy. I knew the other guy liked her, but I told her that the second guy is very nice and good… What am I to do? After some time, she started going out with the second guy. Then only the light bulb appeared upon our guy’s head. He realized that he has loved her so much… and since he didn’t spit out his feelings for her, she stopped waiting too. She knew this guy liked her… but she can’t wait forever for him to realize it, can she? Now.. this guy has gone love-crazy. One day, this girl told me the story… and then only I told her that I knew it all along. She cried a lot… Why? I know why….

Why don’t guys come to their senses before they lose the people they love? You might say it’s maybe because he didn’t want to risk the friendship. Come ooooon people! They were best friends… So they can talk and figure out ANYTHING by talking.

The second incident is just as the same one. This time… the guy was my friend. He’s a very good friend of mine. Once I realized that he has this little ‘thing’ for me. I knew it, buy he never told me what was in his mind. He knew that I knew it too. Time passed… we went our separate ways for finding jobs… and our lives became busy. He kept silent. Some time later, I heard that he’s having a very good friendship with this girl.. and as I heard, they were almost going out. Recently, this guy called me… and when I asked about it, he said. ‘I couldn’t tell her my feelings…. Now she’s going out with a guy’… Hmmm… Then I told him ‘This happens to you every time. Every time you make the same mistake. Don’t ever make that mistake again’. He knew what I was talking about … and he agreed.

I wonder why this particular thing is an in-built feature in a guy’s character. I don’t think it’s common for every guy, but I’ve seen this nature in most of the guys I know. They don’t realize it till they lose it. Just as the saying goes…

Never take someone for granted…
Hold every person close to your heart…
Cz u might wake up one day…
And realize that you’ve lost a diamond….
While u were too busy..
Collecting stones…

THE MOVIE YEAR 2008....

It’s the middle of the Sunday, and the heat is so high. Right now, I’m watching Eagle Eye, which is suppose to be a high ranked movie in 2008. While I’m watching it, I wanted to turn back and recall how the year 2008 has been, for all the movie fans. You know, I’m a movie addict and I can’t resist writing something about movies in my blog, time by time. Make sure you didn’t miss any of the good movies in 2008, before you put your focus into 2009. Just to make sure, I’ll give you guys a few clues.

As a starter, let me tell you… I watched The Day the Earth Stood Still in the theatre this weekend. It was good. It’s an alien invasion movie, starring the Matrix guy and Jennifer Connelly. If you liked Tom Cruise’s War of the Worlds, you’ll definitely like this one too.

Yesterday I watched Fly Me to the Moon, an animated movie. It was quite good. There were a few animated movies which came out in 2008. Let me summarize. The Pirates Who Don’t Do Anything: A Veggies Tale… I downloaded it, but still couldn’t watch it. Igor is supposed to be very good. That too, I’m downloading right now. Will tell you after I watch it. Kung Fu panda was a hit. After the movie, a 30 minute post-movie story came out. The Secrets of the Furious Five. It just tells us about the making of the Furious Five. Horton Hears a Who was a hit. Wall-E was OK, but it’s sort of boring. But I loved the lil robot who calls out “Eeee-vaaaa” to his sweetheart. Open Season 2 was quite funny, just as the 1^st movie. Madagascar 2, yet to be watched. Tinkerbell was a sweet one. Space Chimps was so funny.

Let’s get to the fantasy world now. Make sure you didn’t miss Spider wick Chronicles and Chronicles of Narnia 2: Prince Caspian. Action movies… Untraceable… Jumper..10000 B.C… Doomsday… Babylon A.D… Iron Man.. Wanted.. Hellboy 2… The Dark Knight.. The X-Files movie was a mess. There was nothing much exciting about Death Race as well. The City of Ember, I just downloaded. The Incredible Hulk was not that good, trust me. So is the Indiana Jones movie. I hated it. I watched the trailer of Twilight and read some comments about the movie. It’s even a bigger hit than The Dark Knight, according to the statistics. The DVD rip is still not available in torrent sites, but I personally recommend it even before watching it. It’s that good. Nicholas Cage’s Bangkok Dangerous was not worth the wait too.

Sex and the City was quite a lengthy movie, but the storyline was good. Mamma Mia, the musical was funny, but it’s not that much to crave for, as people tell. The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants 2 was a sweet one. Girls, make sure you watch it, ok? The Duchess.. Hmmm.. That’s a very good one. You should watch it. Keira Knightley is in her best form, you’ll see. Flawless, the story of the Diamond Robbery starring Demi Moore…quite OK.

If somebody asks me to name the 3 best horror movies in 2008, I’d name them as One Missed Call, The Eye and Shutter. Mirrors was a big disappointment, so is The Strangers. Comedies… Hmm.. Tropic Thunder, not good. Wild Child was not exactly a comedy, but it’s nice. House Bunny, good. Superhero Movie, thumbs down. You Don’t Mess with the Zohan, a disaster, so is Love Guru.

I’m missing out so many. So, in general, I’ll casually mention some good ones. Make it Happen.. Quantum of Solace… The Other Boleyn Girl.. Taken.. Never Back Down… Loaded.. Transsiberian.. Drillbit Taylor.. Made of Honour… 21… Over Her Dead Body… The Andromeda Strain… Cloverfield… Sorry guys. I have over 50 movies in my PC, but I’ve deleted so many. But at least.. I hope this list will help. Let’s see what surprises the movie makers have for us in 2009. Fingers crossed…

THIS DAY.... I THINK OF HIM.....

Thinking of this day… exactly one year back… Hmmm… One moment, he was alive… talking and talking without stopping… and 5 hours later, he went so quiet… and didn’t open his eyes… or didn’t speak a single word. He was my best friend… my brother… the light of my life. I still remember this day.. last year… Sitting in front of my computer.. and writing in my blog about him, with tears in my eyes…. How I had him.. How he came to my life… and how he had to go away from my life. Just like a candle light blown away by the wind, he was gone… Gone forever….

I miss him so much. I loved him so much… And the place he rests is on the other side of the world. His best friend.. me… I didn’t even see where he rests… sleeping. I still believe he was an angel…and he added magic to my life, taking me under his angel wings. Brought loads of smiles… happiness and memories to my life.. and he did it all in 3 years. Maybe he didn’t want to see me being alone. So he gave me another angel… another best friend.

Today… I just smile remembering the precious memories he gave me.… He’s up in the sky.. sitting by a star, watching over me from all the way up there, I sense it. And… life goes on… and on… and on.. Still… I miss you my brother..

AS THE NEW YEAR DAWNS...

Captured this view in the earliest hours of January 1st, 2009.. A good luck charmer in yellow....

2008 IN NUTSHELL....

It’s time to close down and wrap up the things for 2008. The year has come to an end. I’m sure you all did a lot of thinking to recap what you all were up to in 2008, recalling the good times and bad times. There were good times.. and there were bad times of cause. Even very good things and very bad things, indeed. Yesterday night, while lying on my bed, I was doing the same thing as you all.. recalling all the memories of 2008. Hmmm… let me summarize…

The year began in the most disastrous way for me.. I think you already know why. My best guy friend passed away in January, and I went through a tremendous pain to get over it. Still I couldn’t. That was the worst thing happened to me in year 2008. Then… the best thing about 2008. Well… It was getting to know my punching bag, my current best guy friend. He came to my life in a most unexpected way and he brought the light back to my life. My lady best friend, Konga.. and myself… we had our perfect friendship throughout the year as always… me helping her out in bad times, and she helping me out in my bad times. We went out a few times, had fun.. and I gave her a surprise on her b’day.. so did she..!!

The year was full of trips, outings and other functions. Gosh..!! There were SO many. Most of my friends got married this year, both from school and work. So.. there were so many weddings and celebrations. Of coz there were so many trips too. Another great thing was the formation of vClub… our circle of best friends from the office. The club activities are going on in full steam and all of it is so much fun… and most of all… I found a set of BEST FRIENDS from work.. Some of my very good friends left the country too, which was very sad for me.

Work wise, it was a very busy year. As my friends say, I get only the busiest and the most critical projects to work with. True enough..!! Even these days, I’m having a very busy time with work, since our product will be going live on 4^th of January. Then there were layoffs… The HR firing people…as the US economy crisis started… and most of the good people left the company… Bad things like that also happened. Ok.. it’s WORK…!! I don’t like to talk about it right now. Let’s skip that part..

Entertainment… A good topic to recap..!! I think I watched the most number of movies in my entire life in year 2008. I downloaded a countless number of movies… and it was definitely a movie year. Songs.. music… everything was up-to-date and well-awared. Made sure not to miss any of the good ones. I read quite a good number of good books this year as well.. and I think there are 2 more books to be read…. Part of unfinished business in 2008. I bought my loving Guitar… and was married to it for a while... Lost my phone, lost all my contacts, songs and photos in it and cursed the dude who stole it… in BIG TIME, that is.

Love and marriage.. Ummm.. Some interesting things. Most of the guys who asked me out were younger than me…(sigh..!!) That was early this year. I had a huge crush on Shayne Ward... and the crush is still there, I think. I didn’t want to get married in 2008… so; it’ll happen in 2009 for sure.

Well… 2008 was a good year for me, for sure. For the time being, I’m happy… but donno what will happen in 2009. I’m PRETTY sure that there will be a huge change in my life in 2009. Good or bad, I don’t know. But.. crossing my fingers and waiting till that moment comes. Last, but not the least… let me.. the girl on the move wish you a wonderful 2009, with all your wildest and sweetest dreams coming true, with loads of happiness and cheer throughout the whole year. Cheers..!!

HAPPY HOLIDAYS, EVERYONE...!!

Wishing you all a very merry christmas..!!

THE vCLUB....!!

This is something that I’m really really thrilled and excited about… Being a proud member of the vClub.. And NO..!! The name is definitely NOT related to the place where we work.. (“We” being most of the vClub members, that is)… It was just a lunch gang at first. I was good friends with Pavi. Then there was the punching bag… and he became my best friend.. Little by little, I became a part of them.

Thiloshi… Buddhini… Pandu.. Pavi…Kalpa.. Anusha and myself, we all work in the same place. Tharaka (Buddini’s hubby), Ravin (Thiloshi’s hubby), Sanju (Pavi’s hubby), Darshi (Anusha’s wife) and Jayamini.. who used to work with us (Kalpa’s wife).. complete our circle of friends. As FOOD is our eternal way of survival, we have a great sense of taste for FOOD. No matter who finds something tasty, we share them among us all. vClub is full of talented cooks..!! (Except me, that is..!)

Back to the story now. We started this monthly meet up a few months back. A pirith in Anusha’s place… Nuwara Eliya trip from our home… Lunch at Kalpa & Jaya’s place… Kaluthara Trip & visit to Thiloshi’s place…. Lunch at Anusha & Darshi’s place… Tea at Buddhini & Tharaka’s place… and finally… pirith at Pavi & Sanju’s place. It took place a few days ago. Now we’re planning the vClub activity for January. It is so much fun to be a part of it. Our friends are in the range of the age 26-29. And me and Pandu being the only singles of them all..!! Trips and events are not the only thing we do. We help each other in every way we can… You name it.. the vClub is there for anything..!!

You don’t meet good friends like them everyday.. or everywhere… specially at work. What we do is so much fun and you always have this great feeling that you are surrounded by such good friends. It’s a great feeling, you know. My parents let me go anywhere with them, cz they know how reliable and good my friends are. I’m proud to be a part of the vClub… and I’m thinking how lucky I am to have them as my best friends. Year 2009 is on the way, and I’m pretty sure… vClub will have so many exciting plans for the coming year. Can’t wait…!!