THE ONE THING I'LL NEVER UNDERSTAND AND WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND ABOUT GUYS..!!

The one thing I never understand about guys will always remain as the one this I never understood about guys! What the hell is that?? Oh well.. It’s simple. This topic came out at the lunch table today and I too added up my opinions to it. When the topic continued, some more people added their opinions to it. Let me tell you what it is… Let’s just say there are two ends to this story. Guy’s side and the Girl’s side. Guy’s side is what I don’t understand. So… Guy’s side : Here it is…

Guy’s side: When a guy meets a girl, whom raised his interest or rather curiosity, they tend to wonder ‘Is she the one?’. The approach: They become friendly with the girl.. But the guy has a fixed set of ‘expectations’ in his mind. They become good friends and slowly… the guy evaluates the girl, no matter how good friends they are. The guy watches the girl. No matter how much the girl cares.. loves… praises and looks after the guy, even if one of his ‘expectations’ are not met with the girl, the guy just thinks ‘Ah.. She’s not exactly my kind’. The guys always look for hard-to-get girls. What guys don’t get is.. Sometimes girls too play hard to get, when they sense somebody is interested on them.

The guy becomes curious about the unknown, mysterious girl more, than the one he knows well.. In most of the cases, what happens is, the mysterious new girl turns him down. Then only it hits his head. The guy gets upset. After a while he does it again. Not only my words, guys. These words actually came out of guys. I asked why they do it. They say ‘That’s how guys are’… Oh jeez! This is what I don’t understand! Why do guys do that? Well.. After so many hardships, the same thing again? I don’t understand this… and I never will.

Girl’s side: Girls do play hard-to-get. But a girl too has a set of ‘expectations’ about how her guy should be. Every girl has that expectation. But when a girl meets a nice-enough guy.. and if she likes him in any way, she does not look for all her ‘expectations’ to be met. Instead, she adjusts. Yes. Girls adjust. Guys don’t. Proves again that girls are from Venus and guys are from Mars.

I was just thinking that.. we have already passed more than one third of our lifetime. At the end of the day, guys.. girls.. we all just die. Do we have to be perfectionists? If we feel that we’re comfortable with someone, and you can be sure that you can live happily with them talking forever without a bore, even if you get old… and if you’re sure that you both will still be comfortable with each other when you face the obstacles in life.. why the perfectionism? That ‘comfort’.. it matters a lot. No… It doesn’t matter a lot. It IS the only matter. Just don’t be too choosy. One reason is, nobody is perfect. The second reason is.. you’re not perfect. So, don’t expect somebody else to be perfect. Whatsoever, in my case, that thing…. the one thing I never understand about guys will always remain as the one this I never understood about guys! Lolz… Complex creatures!

BYE BYE WEEKENDS... I MISS YOU..!!

Today, I woke up at 5 o’clock in the morning. Well.. That will be ‘normal’ for me, 7 days a week for 2 years! I had a tired week at work. My partner in crime in the office is down with viral flu. So I had to go through a hard time, as we started the first round of testing for a brand new Internet Booking Engine. In average case, I would stay late on Friday… watch a movie.. and of coz.. I would listen to some good music. But yesterday, I had to sit by my study table and ‘study’ for an assessment on today. Oh gosh! I’m back with books, pens, pencils, papers and time tables! Back in the University, jeez! The people at home still can’t understand why the hell I am voluntarily ‘sacrificing’ my weekends and ‘putting myself in trouble with studying’ all over again.. Lol…!!

I was sitting in the train at 6.10 A.M, studying the previous week’s lecture notes. Red nosed with a gruesome cold and sleepy eyes.. oh… here I am, studying! I looked out from the window and the sun was just coming out of the hiding. The train passed so many waking-up trees and they all looked so cheerful. On a usual Saturday, I should be still sleeping and dreaming something weird! Well.. I was thinking about the rush I have to be in for the next two years. I will have to sacrifice my weekends. I will have to limit going around the country for a long time. I’ll lose my sleep in big time. Why all this? It’s just that, to gain something greater to our life, we have to sacrifice certain things. I already miss weekends... sniff sniff.. It’s a big deal to me. But then again.. this is the right time for studies. Once an opportunity is gone… it’s gone. So.. I just don’t want to live my life and think someday, ‘I would’ve done this at this time’. But I have to pay some price… In this case… weekends and a few hours of the week to study…

Sooo.. Here I am. Back to pens, pencils and books! Economics, Management, Statistics and Market value Analysis. New stuff! Let’s just do this and see..!! Lol..

WHEN A GIRL....

A certain 'truth' about a girl's world - Found from an e-mail...

When you catch a girl
glancing at you,
she wants you to look
back and smile

When a girl bumps into your arm
while walking with you
she wants
you to hold her hand

When she wants a hug
she will just stand there

When u break a girls heart
she still feels it when
you run into each other 3 years later

When a girl is quiet,
millions of things are running through her
mind

When a girl is not arguing,
she is thinking deeply

When a girl looks at you with eyes full of
questions,
she is wondering how long you will be
around

When a girl answers, "I'm fine," after a
few seconds,
she is not at all fine

When a girl stares at you,
she is wondering why you are playing games

When a girl lays her head on your chest,
she is wishing for you to be hers forever

When a girl says she can't live
without you,
she has made up her mind that you are
her future

When a girl says, "I miss you,"
no one in this world can miss you more
than that

When a girl is mean to you after a break-up
she wants you back, but shes
scared she'll get hurt and knows
you're gone forever

ON POSON DAY

Aukana Buddha Statue - Anuradhapura (Captured on Poson Day)

GOOD THINGS AND BAD THINGS...

Life just flows on these days.. Good things and bad things… The baddest and the saddest and the most unbelievable of all… a death of a best friend.. Hmmm… He was the best friend of my brother who passed away two and a half years ago. He left this world all of a sudden with a major blow on my head! One month ago, he was alive. Then he went on Hitch hiking. Some germ has caught his lungs when he was swimming in an algae – filled water. Then he was hospitalized. My brother’s lil bro was always with him when he was in the hospital. I could only pray for him. Never got the chance to see him cz they live in the States. He was on life support… Got better.. Discharged… Got worse… Hospital again.. Life support.. I prayed and prayed and prayed… Then he left the world.. I kinda walk.. eat… sleep like all numb. Trying not to show the world how grieving I am… I put on a smile. He’s gone. Never coming back. Life is unbelievable, isn’t it? Good people die young because heaven needs more and more angels. Hmmmm….

There were several lil bad things as well.. Small things. One was me being surprised over a certain act by one of my good friends… as in a deviation from the how-I-knew-the-friend kinda thing. I sorted it out meeting the friend.. what really happened for the odd behaviour. It’s sorted, but it left me things to think about. I missed most of my good friends on my b’day. Two were abroad and some were sick.

Good things of coz.. my bro passed a certain exam in the University, in which ¾ of the students failed to get through. It’s a big deal. My sis got graduated. End of her 5 year degree. Work is good for me. I’m gonna start the MBA (Fiiinally!). It starts next week! I’m excited about it. But I’ll never have weekends for myself for 2 whole years. Can’t think how busy life will be! Well… Life just goes on and it’s bad sometimes… and it’s good sometimes. I hope I’ll somehow have to find time to read books.. listen to music.. watch movies… surf FB and for all the other things I love to do, after next week. Life will take a new step! Having high hopes about it!

SUNSET AT BASAWAKKULAMA WEWA....

Captured this on the day after the Wesak day, in Anuradhapura.

THANTHIRIMALE...

We visited Thanthirimale Rajamaha Viharaya for this wesak. It was such a beautiful place. The rock surface covers 250 acres of the ground. When the Sri Maha Bodhi was brought from India to Sri Lanka, one night along the way the pot containing the sapling was kept at Thantheremale. It is believed that there was one branch separately grew from the pot, was planted at that village to remember the incidence. Hence, some believe that this may be the first Sri Maha Bhodi plant in Sri Lanka. The Bo Tree is placed on top of large stony layer which may protect the tree up to now. This place was unidentified till the beginning of this 19th century and in 1960s the temple was reestablished by Buddhist Monks.The temple and surrounding area are full of ruins, including two stone statues and several stone ponds.