WHY RELATIONSHIPS SHOULD BE NAMED...

It’s a Saturday. The girl on the move was wondering around a lot yesterday. The cloud?? Ya.. It was over her head all the time. Let’s see.. The cloud was not raining. It was not bright either. It kept on changing colour time by time. I think the cloud is confused now. Anyway… I slept for 15 hours since I was tired a lot yesterday in every way. Hmm.. Every way means 2 ways, actually. Mentally and physically. However, I wanted to write about something I was thinking about yesterday.. and yet again.. it’s about relationships.

There was a time I believed that every relationship should not have a certain ‘name’ for it. Well.. Some of you may not agree with me on this one. There can be relationships you can never name. They can exist…. But now I understand that those relationships lead only to complications. (There.. I said it straight away!) I was thinking about certain people and certain situations where these unnamed relationships existed. Come to think of it, now I see that they’ve only lead to more complications…. more problems and more hurt. We realize these things, but for some reason, we don’t want to get out of the situation. By the time you realize it, you’re too late. All the harm has been done. Hmmm… How true… So… here are a few ‘named’ relationships. Hope you’ll agree with me.

• The guy/ girl you love – Your boyfriend/ girlfriend or the love of your life.
• The guy/ girl you broke up with – Ex- girlfriend/ Ex- boyfriend.. The relationship should not be named as my girl or my guy.
• The guy/ girl you’re intending to get married to – Your fiancé/ fiancée
• If you’re a girl, the girl you love and trust more than your other girlfriends – Your best friend.
• If you’re a guy, the guy you love and trust more than your other guy friends – Your best friend.
• The woman/ man you’re married to – Your husband / wife
• The woman/ man who got divorced from you – Your Ex-wife/ Ex – husband.
• You’re married to someone and yet you have this endless passion for another man/ woman – You call them your other woman/ man. It’s bad and bitter.

Ok… now.. I want to focus on two things here. The guy/ girl you broke up with and the situation where a married person having passion for someone else. When you broke up with somebody, no matter what you tell yourself to comfort yourself, seeing him/ her eventually hurts you. When it was the other one who wanted to break away from you, still you can’t stop the love you have for him/ her. It’s all true. But once the mirror is broken, you can’t fix it the way it was before. People don’t realize this truth and well.. they tend to drown in the same pain, knowing it will never end and hmmm… for some reason, they tend to live in that hell… It’s a never ending circle. I’ve done that too… but later on when I realized things, I was also hurt too much.
Now… for the married person having passion for someone else thingy… People may have reasons to do that… But when you’re married to someone, you have commitments and responsibilities. People may justify it in many ways. But me.. hmmm… I think it’s something you should never do. Whatever the reasons are… at the end of the line… it’ll be labeled as ‘cheating’.

Two more things.. One.. What do you call a guy who claims to be in love with a girl.. and sees other women behind her back? Two… What do you call a girl who claims to be in love with a guy.. and sees other men behind his back? Well… I have some suggestions… Now.. I would like to hear your ideas about this whole why-relationships-should-be-named thingy… The girl on the move is waiting to hear the ideas in your heads too!

BELL PEPPERS... :D

See this one? My mom brought them home cz my sister needed to prepare a special rice for the New Year lunch. She wanted to add Bell Pepper and Cabbage flowers to ‘spice up’ the rice. This morning, I found the Bell Peppers lying on the kitchen table and the sight of the Bell Peppers in three colours fascinated me.

Don’t they look sweet? So… Before my sis drained the life out them and made them out lunch, I took this one! Now I think I should’ve taken a better shot.. Sigh… Too late now, guys, the pretty bell peppers are already dancing in the cooking rice…!

HAPPY NEW YEAR, EVERYBODY..!!

Let me wish you all of you out there a happy new year first! Ahem.. WISHING ALL OF YOU A HAPPY, PEACEFUL AND A PROSPEROUS NEW YEAR from all my heart! Hope it’s been a really good one for all of you! It should be, since the war is almost ending and there are not many troubles around to be worried about.

Well… As for me, still the cloud is there, and my new year was an average one. But as in every new year, for all of us at home, it was a good one. We have the new year spirit all over the house. Most people don’t make Awurudu food at home, one – it’s time consuming, and two – they don’t know. The good thing is.. we at home.. we know how to. So.. for every new year, we make various kinds of tasty sweets. Let me list down… There were konda kewum.. athirasa… mung kewum.. weli thalapa.. undu wel.. kokis.. butter cake.. chocolate swiss rolls… bananas.. kiribath and murukku. That makes 11. This is the part I love the most about celebrating the New Year at home!

Everybody should know something to pass to the next generation… traditions in particular. Traditional food counts too.. So here we are, my parents passing the traditions to us! So… the picture here is… home made undu wel..!! Waters your mouth, I’m sure.. They sure were a lot tastier than they seem!

CLOUD OVER MY HEAD....

It’s supposed to be the day before the New Year. Well.. in fact, it IS the day before the New Year. I waked up with this cloud upon my head again. For the past few weeks, it was walking with me… right over my head, just like a halo. Sometimes the cloud makes rain, but at all other times, it’s dark. I guess we all have times like this. Sometimes strange thoughts cross your mind.. Well… for me, strange thoughts always cross my mind.

In fact, this morning, when I was sitting and thinking, I wish there was a self- activated pen which can write my thoughts on a paper, reading my thoughts. Just like Rita Skeeter’s magical pen from the Harry Potter movie. How easy would it be! So that I don’t have to tell everybody how I feel about them as and when I want. Everybody around the house is busy.. Nah.. I’m not that enthusiastic this time. But I help around the house, help to prepare food and help them to cook. That New Year spirit is not there for me. Last time, I had a superb one. I even put some pics on FB. This time, I find myself wondering and eating some kinda exotic cheese out of tins.

I wanted to call up my two best friends. She : She must be busy now. Him : nah! That cloud starts rain again! Sometimes I talk gibberish and write gibberish. For those who read my blog, well… excuse me for this one. I’ll find something interesting to write when the cloud is gone. So.. gibberish, in the sense.. I was thinking what I was doing all morning.

I found some unaligned layouts in my blog. I don’t remember how it happened. So I was trying to correct it. Damn this HTML! Then I counted how many movies I have downloaded for the past couple of months. I counted more than 200. Crazy nut, I am. To fit the cloud upon my head, I wanted to watch a gloomy movie. I guess you know that I watch horror. So, I’m downloading ‘The Unborn’. My best friend said it’s absolutely horrific. So.. Wanna try that one out too…

Well guys, lunch is ready, I guess.. I’ll just go. I’ll come before the New Year to wish you all..!!

UNCONDITIONAL.....

How painful life can be? One moment, you’re the happiest person in the world… and the next moment, it all turns to dust and ashes… I think when you love someone, no matter if it’s a friend or the one you’re in love with… that love.. should always be unconditional. There are no rules in love… and if someone says love is conditional?? Do you agree with it or not?

I’m going through the darkest days in my life, and even for a single moment, I just can’t come out of this pain. You love someone unconditionally.. and you get that love back.. shown unconditionally… but told as conditional. Take you over the moon with so much love.. hope…. Happiness.. and the next moment, you’re down in the ground. How painful can it be?

Just because the other person doesn’t love you the same way don’t mean that you can’t love them the way you want. So many memories… so much love…. and when I held that hand, we promised each other not to let go. I didn’t want to. Not even now.. cz no matter what happened. ( Well… I needed to EDIT my post, upon someone’s comments, the someone being the person relevant to this post ) No. It was unconditional. Now the air is gone… and my blood has gone cold, and I live like a zombie.

If someone says they love you so very much, no matter what happens, they’ll never leave you. That lesson, I learned well. If they really love you and want you, they’ll just ignore everything else and.. they’ll just have you. The truth is… they don’t try hard enough. What does it mean, I wonder? I’ve seen this in my life, and now only I have realized it.

When you love somebody, no matter what happens.. they can’t just go away from your life….. They just live in your heart till the day you die. Things will never be the same again, ever. ( Removed the rest )


And there it goes… in the picture. It’s me and my teddy. It’s special, I’d say.. ( Edited )

Bottom line : You can never hate somebody you loved so much.